Books on having only one child

The book is a thorough and interesting exploration of the many aspects of being and having an only child. Jun 17, 2014 one and only examines these questions, exploring what the rise of the single child family means for our economies, our environment, and our freedom. Jul 24, 2019 more americans are grappling with the idea of having one child. Dispelling the myths about only children and their mothers.

We only need to worry about one child s school schedules, swim lessons, soccer practices, etc. A funny, toughminded case for being and having an only child, debunking the myths about only children and taking glory in the pleasures of singletons. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one by lauren sandler. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one in new york journal of books. Shes also extremely dismissive of sibling relationships. Having an only child gives you a mature, diligent, and conscientious little perfectionistbut it also comes with some tough parenting moments. In this fun early chapter book, 8yearold emma struggles with a series of uncomfortable changes. Find out how an only childs personality is formed, and. This is something that has served me in a variety of ways ive always deeply valued and protected my alone time, even when im in. Only child syndrome is one of the most common behavioral syndromes found in kids. Often, those who know an only child, couples on the fence about having a second child, or those who are simply judgmental tout the myths as truths.

I am an only child myself and have a son who i suspect might be an only child, and found the discussion of what that means in terms of emotional, social, and academic development to be fascinating. The average child growing up in a lowincome family, in contrast, has only been exposed to 25 hours of oneonone reading. One child is toreys first book and it was the first thing she ever submitted for publication. San franciscobased aimee grove, who gave birth to her son at age 39, says that the high cost of living in the bay area played into her decision to have only one child. Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. Jan 31, 2012 onlychild families are becoming the new traditional family, for a number of reasons, says social psychologist and author susan newman, ph. How i made peace with having only one child working mother. Had one mc before and after his birth, and due to chemotherapy went into early menopause when he was three. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being. So even though as a parent, it would be easier to only have one child, in the long haul, i think it benefits the whole family to have more than one child. Journalist lauren sandler is an only child and the mother of one. Lauren sandler, author of one and only the argument.

The one child phenomena has caused lots of handwringing and generated a slew of research to determine whether only children are as popular, as smart, as welladjusted as kids with siblings. If im being honest, theres almost nothing easy about it. Given that about one in five american families now have just one child, this seems like a good time to question the misconceptions about only children and the dangers of raising a. Twelve years younger than her only brother, kelly rose bradford grew up feeling like an only child lonely and used to her own company. The onechild family is the fastestgrowing family unit in the united states, according to census data. One and only book by lauren sandler official publisher. From counseling with only child families and with only child adults, and from a lot of reading, i wrote the book the. The one child family is the fastestgrowing family unit in the united states, according to census data.

China moves to end twochild limit, finishing decades. Census bureau, around 26 percent of children living in. Working moms reveal their struggles over having a second kid. The story itself was written very quickly only eight days from start to finish. Apr 12, 2018 often, those who know an only child, couples on the fence about having a second child, or those who are simply judgmental tout the myths as truths. If you have just one kid or your kid is just sick of their siblings at the moment, here.

The average child growing up in a middle class family has been exposed to 1,000 to 1,700 hours of oneonone picture book reading. Whatever is behind the stereotype, only children are demographically on the rise. After investigating what only children are rea debunking the myth that only children are selfish, maladjusted little emperors, a prominent journalist makes a funny, toughminded, and honest case for being and having an only child. In her 2011 book, the case for the only child, she writes that many women are having children later in life, and that more and more families are concerned about the cost of raising children. Aug 28, 2018 the chinese government could be moving to end birth restrictions, amid growing concerns over an aging population and a dropping birth rate. I am an only child myself and have a son who i suspect might be an only child, and found the discussion of what that means in terms of emotional, social, and academic development to. Only child syndrome is the belief that only children are spoiled, bossy, and antisocial but this stigma isnt actually true. Jun 17, 2014 the book is a thorough and interesting exploration of the many aspects of being and having an only child. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these stereotypes and sifts through a. Children in lowincome families lack essential oneonone reading time. But there were definitely areas especially socially where having siblings would have prepared me better for engaging with the world. The author goes out of her way throughout the book to make the point that not only is having an only child a valid and good choice for many families, but that having an only child is a superior choice and apparently the only choice that a thoughtful parent can make. The word hidden in the title has a lot to do with what occurs in the book, actually the book revolves around the word hidden.

The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one is an excellent book. Being an only child may have its challenges, but thats true of being a child, period. Having only one child also allows the parent to be more attuned to the individual emotional needs of the single child because there isnt another child whose needs take the parent away from the. Whether your home is filled with laughter from one child or 10, all kids need love, safety, respect and tenderness. A swift and absorbing readmay change your mind and the national conversation psychology today. Since households that have an only child are the largest growing family demographic today, your little one has plenty of company. We only need to worry about one childs school schedules, swim lessons, soccer practices, etc. Apr 06, 2017 the ramifications of parenting an only child are pervasive, though. Only child syndrome characteristics, symptoms, signs, treatment. Parents are often unaware of the stress a child endures when hes shuffled between two homes. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one reprint by lauren sandler isbn.

The chinese government could be moving to end birth restrictions, amid growing concerns over an aging population and a dropping birth rate. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these. In her new book one and only, the writer lauren sandler describes. A type of family that has always interested me is the one with a single child. And there are many other great books, documentaries, interviews and videos about the idea. Many childrens books feature twoparent familiesand while its important to introduce your child to all kinds of families, for single parents, having your own collection of great books about singleparent families can be a wonderful thing. This is a shift in previous decades, where larger families were the trend. According to the office for national statistics, in 2017 more than half of families had one dependent child, the highest level for more than 80 years. Finally, a book that says your family is okay in fact, can be wonderful. Only children are on the rise so why does everyone keep asking me when im having another baby. Much of the onlychild mythdebunking has been done by toni falbo, a professor of educational psychology at the university of texas, who has. The parents of an only child tend to be overprotective. Among the hidden was written by margaret peterson haddix, this is a fiction book. Her book is a mustread both for adult only children and parents of just oneand.

Why being the mother of an only child breaks me daily the. An only child may get bored of parental involvement 6. She and her mom downsize to a smaller house, she changes schools, and, most significantly, her prized only child status is challenged when her mom has to babysit a messy 4yearold for a whole week. Jun 07, 2016 many childrens books feature twoparent familiesand while its important to introduce your child to all kinds of families, for single parents, having your own collection of great books about singleparent families can be a wonderful thing. May 31, 2018 much of the only child mythdebunking has been done by toni falbo, a professor of educational psychology at the university of texas, who has researched only children since the 1970s. One and only examines these questions, exploring what the rise of the singlechild family means for our economies, our environment, and our freedom. Onlychild families are becoming the new traditional family, for a number of reasons, says social psychologist and author susan newman, ph. Lauren sandler interviewed a wide range of people and professionals from all over the world, looked at studies, and shared some personal experiences of having and being an only child.

Having just one child allows us to have the best of both worlds, being able to experience being parents but not having to forego our desire to continue to grow in our careers. An only child may get too much pressure from parents, to perform well or excel in school and other activities 4. One cant help but think of the parents of the young victims at sandy hook elementary school, who remind us six years later of the toll such violence takes. In my daughters class, a quarter of the children have no siblings. The environmentalist bill mckibben and the psychologist susan newman have both written wellknown books about the advantages of having a single child that covered some of. She and her mom downsize to a smaller house, she changes schools, and, most significantly, her prized onlychild status is challenged when her mom has to babysit a messy 4yearold for a whole week.

This book had a lot of parts that made me stare into the book. Although parenting approaches change, attitudes about only children remain stuck in the past. Jan 14, 2015 twenty percent of the family population is one child, said psychologist susan newman, author of the book parenting an only child. Twenty percent of the family population is one child, said psychologist susan newman, author of the book parenting an only child. In fact, one of the greatest american psychologists, and the first president of the american psychological association, g. It took only 42 days from the time she started writing one child until she signed a contract with g. In fact, the only differences found have been generally positive for example, possibly because their parents are able to dedicate more resources directly to them, only children tend to have more. Debunking the myth that only children are selfish, maladjusted littl. Jun 09, 20 the environmentalist bill mckibben and the psychologist susan newman have both written wellknown books about the advantages of having a single child that covered some of the same ground. In my experience, one of the most common traits of an only child in addition to being spoiled, okay fine is a strong sense of independence and an eagerness to explore life outside of the parental threshold. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one reprint by sandler, lauren isbn. People are having children later, which leaves less time for having the second child. I wish my son wasnt an only child life and style the.

Apr 05, 2014 twelve years younger than her only brother, kelly rose bradford grew up feeling like an only child lonely and used to her own company. Stanley hall, referred to being an only child as a disease in itself. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these stereotypes and sifts through a huge body of research that debunks. Sep 01, 1998 among the hidden was written by margaret peterson haddix, this is a fiction book. Through this journey, sandler has quite possibly cracked the code of happiness, demonstrating that having just one may be the way to resolve our countless struggles with adulthood in the modern age. What you learn about being an only child once youre an adult. The ramifications of parenting an only child are pervasive, though. Studies have repeatedly shown that only children are no different from their peers not particularly lonely, maladjusted, selfish, etc. Advantages and disadvantages of having one child bellybelly. The pros and cons of being an only child tim and olives blog.

The only child syndrome is obviously found in those kids who are the only. The syndrome actually gives it a negative connotation. It meant switching between different rules and routines and having two homes, yet often feeling as if he were not a part of either. It is developed after birth and the syndrome is more of behavioral then biological. Feb 15, 2018 one cant help but think of the parents of the young victims at sandy hook elementary school, who remind us six years later of the toll such violence takes. More americans are grappling with the idea of having one child. A recent cover story by time magazine indicated that 1 in 5 american families are choosing to have only one child. One and only, by lauren sandler the new york times. Now 40 and a single mother, she feels guilty that her son. The onechild phenomena has caused lots of handwringing and generated a slew of research to determine whether only children are as popular, as smart, as welladjusted as kids with siblings.